Table of Contents
Introduction: How these skills work for all kinds of parents and kids | 1
Part I
The 7 Skills
Chapter 1 Skill # 1 SET YOURSELF UP FOR SUCCESS: How to adjust your expectations and reactions for good parenting results| 3
Chapter 2 Skill # 2 PAY ATTENTION: How to give your children attention in ways that work | 29
Chapter 3 Skill # 3 CALMLY TALK TO TEACH: How to lower your stress while teaching kids to listen, be respectful and build healthy self-esteem | 53
Chapter 4 Skill # 4 SEIZE CONTROL: How to set limits on what they do, choose your battles, and help them develop good character | 77
Chapter 5 Skill # 5 PLAN DISCIPLINE AND FOLLOW THROUGH: How to use consequences, teach responsibility, and be consistent | 101
Chapter 6 Skill # 6 BALANCE YOUR SUPPORT AND CONTROL: How to optimize your parenting style for good behavior, independence and resilience | 145
Chapter 7 Skill # 7 KEEP A CLOSE EYE ON THEM: How to monitor and manage outside influences to prevent problems | 181
Part II
Expanded Use of the 7 Skills
Chapter 8 START SUCCESS EARLY: How to give you and your baby or toddler a great start | 213
Chapter 9 MORE ON SUCCESSFUL PARENTING OF TEENS: How to deal with the developing brain and other challenges | 235
Chapter 10 SIBLINGS: How to turn foes into friends | 264
Chapter 11 SUCCESSFUL PARENTING IN THE STORM: Pearls for handling divorce | 273
Chapter 12 GOING SOLO: Pearls for successful single parenting | 281
Chapter 13 HOW TO HANDLE COMMON PARENTING ISSUES: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder to Yelling | 286
Chapter 14 TEMPERAMENT SKILLS: How to manage the traits that children are born with (how active, adaptable, bold versus shy, distractible, intense, moody, persistent, regular, and sensitive they are) | 307
Appendix A WHAT KIDS CAN DO BY AGE: Communication, self-care, social skills and chores | 323
Appendix B FEELING WORDS TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN: Words to use when they are happy, sad, scared, confused, or angry | 336
References and Resources for Parents | 340
Index | 355 |
